Reject Her
Kristin
replied that I was just looking for another reason to reject her, and that all I
do is reject her.
I told her that rejecting her would be something like telling her to go away from me, which I could have done when she said to me, "I hope at least the man I marry after you die will be someone that I like." But instead of rejecting her, I had chased after her and brought her back when she ran away from me. After she told me to never contact her again and flew off to China, I had evacuated her and flown her to where I was as she had asked. So I had done the opposite of rejecting her. While other men would have rejected her after such incidents, I had kept accepting her and looking for solutions. But to solve any problem, it first needs to be identified and recognized, so I asked her to please be honest with me about borderline personality disorder.
She replied that she doesn't have borderline personality disorder or any other problem. She said I was the one who has problems since if I were a real man, I would just marry her and have sex with her. Because I refused to marry her and have sex with her, she said I was not a real man.
I ignored the insult and reminded her of the reasons why all demons had to be cast out and all alters be integrated before marriage:
1. A demon cast out of her had entered me. Did she want demons entering the baby she will have?
2. A demon had tried to break my neck and ended up crushing my Adam's apple. Did she want demons breaking the neck of her baby?
3. Having a baby raised by many alters with different personalities won't be good for the baby, who needs a mother with a stable and consistent personality to attach to.
4. Any unresolved issues brought into marriage will harm the marriage and the children being raised.
5. Ultimately, the one who remains married will be the alter who doesn't integrate. What will happen if she marries now, all of her alters integrate except for one, and that last alter says she neither chose to marry nor wants to stay married to her husband?
6. We had gotten engaged when we did because she voluntarily promised that after getting engaged, she won't ask for marriage again until all demons have been cast out and all alters have integrated.
7. We had vowed also to God to marry after all demons are out and all alters have integrated, and a vow to God must be kept, even unto death, as Jephthah idiotically and tragically demonstrated in Judges 11.
I also reminded her that working to provide for her and trying to help her with her health issues, deliverance, dissociative identity disorder and borderline personality disorder had already been more than I could handle; I had had no time or energy to raise children as well. In fact, I read that because mothers with borderline personality disorder often end up hurting their children, their husbands often end up taking their children away from their wives. I told her that having to choose between the wife and the children would be a heartbreaking tragedy that must be avoided.
In response, Kristin did the unthinkable. She flew back to China. She called the Chinese owner of the school that she had left without saying a word, told her that she had had to be evacuated in an emergency for health reasons but had now recovered, and asked to return. The Chinese woman must have been desperate, as she actually said yes and even agreed to pay for her fight and deduct it from her paycheck.
I told Kristin that she is absolutely crazy to return to China's suffocating air pollution after having begged me to evacuate her from it just a few weeks earlier. Just how long did she think she can last in China's poisonous air this time? I couldn't physically restrain her, so she flew back to China, telling me once again to never to contact her again.
Their voices sounded exactly the same and the one who flew back to China denied it, but I strongly suspected that the alter who flew back to China isn't the one who had begged me to evacuate her from China.