Engaged With Alters
After
our reunion, Kristin said that while she can wait for marriage, she needs at least an engagement. If we
could just get engaged, she said she won't ask for marriage again until all demons
have been cast out and
all alters have integrated.
But she really needed to be engaged to know that her future with me is assured
and that I won't leave her.
But what if the last remaining alter wants to marry someone else? She said I am the only man who has ever been there for her and she is sure that I am the one for her. If I really love her and will always be there for her like I say, then I needed put a ring on her finger. The pressure to get engaged came from many of her alters and was relentless.
After dinner at a nice restaurant, I got down on one knee, presented her with an engagement ring, and asked her, "When all this is over, will you marry me?" She said yes and we became engaged. Given how much she had wanted and pushed for this, I was a bit surprised that she didn't seem all that happy. There were no tears of joy. Her reaction was more that of someone who had accomplished an intermediate objective. But she did seem happy about her engagement ring.
Two days after our engagement, Kristin turned to me and said that she wants marriage now. I was floored. We had gotten engaged because she had said that if we got engaged, she won't ask for marriage again until all demons have been cast out and all alters have integrated, so how could she ask for marriage just two days after getting engaged?
She claimed that her engagement ring is so pretty that it made her change her mind. Besides, I had asked her to marry me, she had said yes, so I needed to marry her now. I reminded her that I had asked her to marry me "when all this is over," and she knew that refers to when all demons have been cast out and all alters have integrated. She ignored the reminder and simply started asking for marriage again.
In hindsight, I suspected that she never intended to stop asking for marriage, and that 'locking down the engagement' first was probably another thing that the two American women had whispered into Kristin, who wasn't manipulative like this until her dinner with them.
The sermons at the Methodist church were as edifying as before, but we were soon reminded of all of the elements that made the country unsuitable for Kristin. So I told her that we were running out of options in Asia, which her health simply seemed unable to tolerate, so we really needed to consider returning to USA.
She wouldn't hear of it, so I pulled up online a map of Asia. The two southeastern countries were the best options in the south. She couldn't live in this one, and could no longer enter the other one. We had tried the far north and that hadn't worked out either, so we had to look east, which presented three options: Taiwan, Korea and Japan.
Taiwan was too close to the air pollution that blew eastward from China. A long time ago, I had lived in Japan for a couple of months, during which my female Western colleagues had constantly complained about being sexually harassed by Japanese men, who viewed Western women as sex objects. Japan also has very few Christians. Korea has more Christians and Kristin said she had felt safe when she was there, but it was closer than Japan to China's air pollution. The least worst option seemed to be an island between Korea and Japan called Jeju, so we flew there.