American Christian Women
One
day, Kristin called and said that two older American Christian women approached and greeted her
at a Starbucks, and introduced themselves
as members of the expat church whose service we had attended. They mentioned
that they had seen us at the service, chatted with her, and invited her to
dinner at one of their homes.
I was excited for Kristin. She had been so lonely being by herself during the weekdays in that city. While we called, spoke, prayed, and cast out demons by phone everyday during the week, it would be great for her to have some older, mature American Christian women to minister to her, much like the Baptist pastor's wife who had prayed and tried to cast demons out of her. Who knew, maybe one of the two women would even offer to house her.
Kristin called after returning from the dinner with them, so I asked her how it had gone. She replied in an angry voice, "I want marriage now!"
The two women were wives of American corporate expats who lived in company-provided Western mansions in the most expensive residential community in that city. After sitting down with her, the two American Christian women had asked about me, whom they had seen with her at the service on Sunday. When she told them that I was the man she was going to marry, they asked her if we had set a date. When she said not yet, they asked her why not. When she didn't give them a good answer (she didn't want to tell them that she has demons and dissociative identity disorder, lest they reject her), they asked how old I was and if was divorced. When she told them my age and that I had never been married, the two American 'Christian' women decided that a man my age shouldn't be with a young woman like Kristin without even having a date set, and that it was their place to right this injustice.
They told Kristin that men my age who have never been married and can't set a date to marry have commitment issues, and that she needs to pressure me to marry her. They told her that she is a beautiful girl who deserves a husband who will provide her with what they have: a nice house, children who come home from a private school and then fill the house with laughter, and a husband who comes home for dinner and then spends the evenings and the weekends with her. They told her that a man my age should consider himself lucky to be with such a beautiful young woman like her but needed to step up and marry her.
Until that dinner, while Kristin continued to push for marriage, she agreed that all demons had to be cast out and all alters had to integrate before marriage and was grateful for my love and walking this journey with her.
After that dinner with those two American women, marriage became what she 'deserves' now, even before the rest of the demons have been cast out and the rest of the alters integrate, and I became the man who was making her suffer by withholding from her what was rightfully hers.
Kristin said that I need to marry her immediately and provide her with what those two American women had, including a nice house and children. I reminded her that even apart from the spiritual warfare that we were waging, we were missionaries, not an expat corporate executive and his wife, but she was seething with resentment and anger, and no longer listening.
Instead of being mature Christian women and ministering spiritually to a younger sister in Christ, the two American 'Christian' women had filled Kristin's fragile mind with their own materialistic and fleshly desires. I don't know if their words changed Kristin fundamentally or enabled an unsaved, fleshly alter to take control, or inserted another demon inside Kristin, but they had a devastating impact on Kristin and on our relationship. I sincerely wish those two American 'Christian' women would have kept their materialistic, fleshly and ignorant mouths shut.