No Kiss Until Marriage
When
I went to visit Kristin the next weekend, she declared that we should no longer even kiss
until marriage. I told her that I would be up for that, as kissing tended
to lead to temptations, but asked her if she is sure about that, as due
to the abuse she suffered, she defines love in physical terms and is someone who
needs lots of hugs and kisses to feel loved. She said she is sure, so we vowed
to God to not kiss again until marriage.
The very next weekend, she, or another alter of her, asked me to kiss her, and cried when I reminded her that just one week earlier, she had demanded that we no longer kiss until marriage, so we had vowed to the Lord to no longer kiss until marriage, and vows to the Lord must be kept.
In hindsight, I suspect those two American expat wives had told Kristin that withholding physical affections to a man until marriage is one of the tactics to pressure him to marry. They didn't know that Kristin is the one who needs the physical affections and the one who had been pushing for intimacy, and I was the one holding her back. Since we had already vowed to God to not have sex until marriage, Kristin, or at least one alter of her, had heeded the two women by playing the only card she had left: not to even kiss until marriage. She was already regretting it but it was too late since we had already made a vow to God. The impact of the manipulative words of the two American "Christian" women was immediate.
Until she heard them, Kristin and I had always felt that we were a team, even and especially in the midst of intense spiritual warfare. That cohesion began to fray as she began to view as the main cause of her woes not her Satanist father having raped her for twenty years, causing her to dissociate, and putting demons into her alters, but my withholding marriage from her and now not even kissing her.