Cleansed Of All Demons
A
few days after her "purity ring"
had been ordered, Kristin came downstairs and declared
that she has been cleansed of
all demons and all of her alters have integrated, so we can now marry.
Really? Was that what this had been all about: get the wedding band ordered under the pretense of it being her "purity ring," then claim full deliverance and integration, and then push for the wedding? I was disappointed and annoyed with her, and told her to go back upstairs and continue reading her Bible.
The next day, she came downstairs again and repeated that she really has been cleansed of all demons and all alters have integrated. When did that happen? She said yesterday. Then why wasn't she more ecstatic and jumping up and down with joy? She said she will be ecstatic and jump up and down when I marry her.
So to her, having the Lord cleanse her of all demons and integrate all of her alters was less important than getting married to me? I told her to think about that and to return to her Bible.
The next day, she came downstairs and again repeated that she has been cleansed of all demons and all alters have integrated, so we should marry.
Still annoyed, I told her that if she really has been cleansed of all demons and all alters have integrated, then now would be the time for her to fly away from me for six months, like I had mentioned to her when she first mentioned marriage, to discover herself, her aspirations and desires, including what kind of man she really wants to marry, as a fully integrated person who is free of demons for the first time in her life.
The next day, she came downstairs and declared that while she is sure that I am the man she wants to marry, if I don't marry her as I had vowed to when she has been cleansed of all demons and all alters have integrated, then she will fly away from me, back to China to resume her life as a vocational single missionary. The notion of her returning to China's toxic air pollution was so farfetched that I brushed it off and ignored her.
The next day, she forwarded me an email reply from a kindergarten in her favorite city in China inviting her to interview for a teaching position. I replied to her that she is not returning to China and told her to stop playing games and wasting her time and theirs.
A couple of days later, she forwarded me an email from the kindergarten in China expressing pleasure with the interview and inviting her to sign the attached employment contract.
Had she gone mad? We had spent three years flying around Asia desperately trying to find a place to protect her from China's toxic air but had failed. In fact, she had spent the three weeks before we left China locked up inside a building because the air pollution outside was so thick and toxic. She knows that her body cannot tolerate China's toxic air pollution, so what was this nonsense about returning to China? And why was she suddenly making by herself decisions that affect both of us?
She replied that if I wanted to continue to make decisions for her, then I need to marry her and become her head. Otherwise, she was free to make decisions on her own.
Even before I met Kristin, she had a history of making spur of the moment, emotional decisions. There are people who make such decisions and they somehow end up working out, but Kristin wasn't one of them. Her emotional decisions invariably blew up in her face and hurt her, but she continued to make them. It would be insane for her to return to China but I now had to accept that she was serious about accepting this offer and returning there.
The employment contract was long and full of red flags, so I showed her a couple of them and told her that combing through it for her would take me a few days.