Love Is Sacrifice
Kristin
said then I should marry her, to which I replied that we are way past
discussing marriage for ourselves. She then repeated her accusation that I never loved her because a
man who loves a woman marries her. I reminded her that love is sacrifice, I had
sacrificed six years of my life for her without seeking anything in return,
and asked her what she has sacrificed for
me. She remained silent. So I told her that I loved her more than I loved all of
my previous girlfriends combined, more than myself, more than I thought I was
capable of loving, that I am not capable of loving anyone else again like I
loved her, and that I will love until I die the sweet Kristin whom I had known for the first four years.
I told her that the issue isn't love but trust, which a marriage also requires, and asked her how many times she has betrayed my trust. She again remained silent, so I reminded her to get counseling for borderline personality disorder, as I didn't want it destroying her next relationship as it has destroyed ours. She was still young. If she spends a year or two focusing on healing from her borderline personality disorder, and then healing from dissociative identity disorder and on casting out the remaining demons, she will be able to marry and have a long, happy marriage.
But if she continues to avoid dealing with her borderline personality disorder, she could spend the next twenty, thirty or forty years going from one broken relationship to another. If she then decides to focus on healing from borderline personality disorder, she will have wasted the best years of her life and bitterly regret not having heeded my counsel to focus on healing when she was young. How sad that would be.